Why it's awesome: HER is the award-winning mix of dating and social media that lets you meet girls you know are girls (and not nasty men trying to pose as girls), as it requires a Facebook for signup and is solely for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women. You don't see that often, and if you do, it's some highly sexualized fantasy thing for guys to drool over. HER was made by queer women, for queer women, which was a much-needed safe space in the world of online dating.
The research indicates that men are initially attracted to a women's looks and women are ultimately attracted to a man's income/stability he may provide. So it's hardly surprising that both try to bend reality in order to entice the "ideal" mate. Superficial I know and sadly, it is the same all over the world (albeit with different degrees of sophistication).
That might be one reason why Bumble has its devotees, too. “I downloaded Tinder and Bumble when I got out of a pretty catastrophic relationship because I was certain I had extinguished all game and would never meet someone organically,” says Cristina, 26, a graphic designer from Boston. “At first Tinder was the more addictive option because of the number of candidates, but I eventually shifted to Bumble because the conversations were better, and the numbers way more manageable.”
If dating apps are supposed to take the headache out of trying to meet someone, it's not a good sign that so many daters consider them a necessary evil at best and just plain evil at worst. Iliza Shlesinger, in her new Netflix special, Elder Millennial, has a bit about online dating. “I don’t like to tell people how we met,” she says of her fiancé. "It’s not bad, it’s not embarrassing, it’s just not cool: We met on a dating app, like all of you. We met on a dating app and it’s less a product of my creativity and more a product of my generation. I’m a millennial and that’s how we meet each other.” (The special is funny and you should watch it.)
Coffee Meets Bagel is matchmaking with a twist: guys on the dating app get up to 21 matches a day, which they can like or dismiss. Women are sent a curated selection of the men who have liked them, and can then choose to initiate a conversation (and they can also browse for a match). Like Bumble, there's also a countdown element: once you start chatting, you have 7 days before your shared chatting window is deleted.6
At eHarmony Canada we understand that most of our 4 million users aren’t just interested in a date. They want something more: a meaningful relationship is often the aim, and that’s where we can help. Whether you’re a Calgary single, Vancouver single, or one of our many professional singles looking for love in Canada, we have potential matches waiting for you.
Hinge started out by showing you Facebook friends of friends, but their algorithm is so smart that it has now surpassed friends of friends as a predictor of compatibility (AKA you won't be matched with someone all wrong for you just because you have a mutual friend). Rather, Hinge helps you get to know the other person more deeply than any new app has attempted, revealing answers to juicy, detailed questions about things like future plans, religion, and vices. Seems like a good recipe for a connection past physical stuff, right? According to Hinge, 75% of their first dates lead to second dates, so it's clearly working.
For many singles, especially serial-monogamists or divorcees, signing up for a slew of online dating options and websites is an overwhelming and cumbersome process. Because there are hundreds of options readily available in your app store, deciphering which downloads will reap the most benefits requires research, trial-and-error and plenty of failed first dates. However, it doesn’t have to be.